Make time for you

A subject much publicised in the media in recent years, taking time for ourselves and looking after our mental health is more important than ever. It’s a topic that resonates with all of us too and something that can affect us in all walks of life.

It seems today, we are all just too busy. We overthink things – not helped by the current political climate – and worry ourselves silly. We say yes too much, forgetting that no isn’t actually a sign of weakness, or a word to disappoint people, but rather one that signifies putting you first. It’s selfishness in the best sense of the word. We can’t do everything, be everywhere and help everyone. And yet, we feel as though we should. So much so in fact, that we forget about ourselves. Casting what we want and what we need to the side-lines, in favour of not letting others down.

The truth is of course, that this mentality, this devotion to others rather than ourselves, will eventually run out of steam. It isn’t sustainable. That’s not to say we shouldn’t help others or say yes – far from it – but it’s about striking a balance. Finding a medium that feels comfortable and more attainable. Easier, even.

Just the other day, I was saying to my boyfriend how in desperate need I was of a holiday. I last had time off from work in September last year – nearly 5 months ago – so I’m yearning for a well-earned break. Some time to relax, to take stock and recharge. We all need it. It’s vital not only for our wellbeing but ability to perform well, to be happy and content.

As lovely as a week off every month would be, it’s not practical (or possible). So, the question is, how do we achieve that balance? How to create an equilibrium in our lives that helps with how we’re feeling? I’ve recently started yoga again. Now of course, I’m “too busy” to go to classes so I simply roll out my mat in our spare room and take it from there. Not only is it good for your body, but it works wonders on the mind too. I find it helps to restore and relax, allowing you to forget a stressful day or prepare for one ahead. 

I’ve spoken about this before but taking ‘me-time’ has never been more important. At work, on the commute, even when we get home – we’re always surrounded by people and commitments. Sometimes you just need to get away, distance yourself and do something you want to do – something that makes you happy. For me, it’s an early morning Sunday car boot or dog walk in the middle of nowhere. For others perhaps it’s a massage, a touch of retail therapy or lunch with friends. 

You know what makes you happy, what makes you feel content and relaxed, so do more of it. If you can’t find the time, make the time because nothing is more important. We tend to forget that, don’t we? So, put yourself first. Do what you need to do to restore the balance, find your equilibrium and make time for you.